We really do live in a world that values extroversion. And for people who are of the quieter persuasion, it can feel rather unwelcoming. But in her book, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World, Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D. points out that we introverts do enjoy some advantages – although we may not be aware of them. More importantly, she describes how we can learn to recognize and even strengthen those advantages.
Sometimes a little adaptation on our part can help both us and others feel more comfortable. Here are 10 tips for introverts on how to live better in an extrovert-focused world:
- Since most people aren’t mind-readers, find a way that feels comfortable for you to tell your boss and others about your successes.
- Know the situations that deplete your energy (like being in a group situation for a long period of time). Plan for periods of retreat before, during and after to restore your energy.
- Before going in to a social situation, think about the people you will be with. What are they passionate about? Come up with a few comments or questions beforehand.
- Kindly accept compliments from others. A sincere “Thank You” will do.
- Make a point to give compliments. You may recognize others’ gifts before they do – let them know.
- Plan to tackle your toughest work early in the day.
- At the end of each day, write down at least one thing you accomplished.
- Don’t feel pressured to give an immediate response. If you need to think it through, say so.
- Sometimes we are perceived as snooty and standoffish. Sharing a little bit about yourself with others will allow them to feel like they know you better.
- Know and appreciate your strengths.
If you or a close-someone is an introvert, I highly recommend this book. It will provide a different perspective on their unique value.
The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World